Listen, next year I'll be working with more children. I want to understand from you what I should do with them and what I shouldn't.
8-year-old: So you mean I'll help you with that.
Yes, that's how I am. Like, what did you learn from me, what am I from you...
I take a percussion stick from my Tibetan bowls and start walking around the room.
You can write it down so you don't forget.
Register.
Pazit, I taught you to prepare food, types of massages, languages that no one knows and only if you are focused, as I explained to you, can you hear. I taught you how to enjoy life and I also taught you to be someone who looks for things in nature and makes things from them. Paintings from nature. And also that you laugh a lot, that's what I think. If there's still time (in our meeting) I'll think about what else.
I look into his warm eyes. And I, did I teach you anything?
Him: Be gentle. You taught me that you can do whatever you want. You gave me time to think and plan, and that's the most important thing to me. Did you say that new children would come to you?
Yes.
So start with a memory-erasing massage. You have to do this, the one I taught you at the very beginning, before the Indian massage. It's good for him so he forgets old lessons.
You should also tell him everything about yourself, now and in the past, because that way he can really practice listening. Do this to anyone who comes to you. It's important that they get to know you well, like I do.
What does it mean to know well?
Give me a minute. I'll be back in a minute.
He went out. He returned with two wooden boards, one small, dark and one light, and some plasticine he found in the yard.
Come on, concentrate for a moment. Take a leaf, make a dye from nature. Rub it hard on the wood. Now we'll take wax. Roll it. Make a candle. We used to have a lot of candles, so that's how you see and remember us. Do you understand? There's some plasticine from nature here. (Brought it from the schoolyard) Roll it, let's make a heart out of it. Stick it on the wood, no glue needed, press hard, don't worry, and hold it gently later, when you take it home. It won't fall off, trust me, you made a good heart.
Sit down for a moment.
Sitting.
I'm doing a drawing of you now. He rubs with the leaf and carves a face on the brown board. That's it. Come on. (Places the board on the stool) That's the most important thing.
What is most important?
That children will eventually give you a gift, which is a sign. Well… like the one I made for you now.
A sign? A sign of what?
That they know you. Look, you like the smell of nature, right?
Obviously.
So here you go. Smell your fingers now after you've rubbed the tree with the leaves.
pleasant.
Now the picture. This is you. Your eyes are big. Right? Put it next to the bed and don't forget that whoever made this for you knows you really well.
silence.
You can also think of a gift to give me, which is a sign that you know me really well.
Me: Ummm… it’s not really hard. Good stones.
Him: Yes. But when you're in the stone store, try to feel what suits me.
Promise.
***
Honey, time is up.
Do I have to go?
Laughter.
Come on, bye, another kid is coming in a second.
Leaving. Returning.
Pazit, I hate having to go to class. Really hate it. Math, language, everything in the classroom. Everything can be learned in nature, everything, especially me. In nature, everything is open and that's important for children. I'm a child of nature. You understand, right?
I understand.
Leaving, returning.
So when children come to you, explain to them that in the classroom everything is the same, a book, a notebook, a pencil. Outside, their life is better, nothing is the same and nothing ends. And if you can have them stay, even if another child comes after them, then let them, okay?
(And all of this is word for word)


You really touched me with your approach to children. I hope you will inspire more and more educators and parents to adopt your approach.
What a stunning child, and an even more stunning caregiver. I encounter more and more 8-year-old children who just want nature, who want soil, stones, real colors. It's so fun to hear that and see that there are still caregivers like you in this crazy system, and parents who know how to give a child the tools to be different.