"We tried to help, maybe we could have done more.."
A sad end to a sad story: a guy in his 30s ended his life in the storage room of his apartment on Hillel Street. The apartment was owned by his father, in his 70s, who did not live in it after a fire broke out in the apartment about a year ago, which completely destroyed it.
"His mental state has deteriorated"
One of the people who tried to help the father and son is the nephew: "Father, mother and son lived in the house until the mother passed away in 2019. They lived on Hillel Street in Hadar. The son is 34 years old and the father is 73. The son entered into a crisis after the mother died. About a year ago, the apartment on Hillel Street returned The father and son lived there, it was completely burned down. Apparently the fire happened due to a short circuit. My uncle had no insurance, and he had no possibility to renovate the apartment and make it livable. The welfare department placed my uncle in a nursing home in Kiryat Eliezer. All this time, I and other friends tried to restore the house. We turned and asked for help, but they didn't help. The son wandered here and there and in the end it became clear to us that during this year he slept in the warehouse of the apartment that burned down, or he slept on the streets. He was offered housing from the municipality, but he refused.
"It's the little things that break people"
Last Thursday (16/3/23) they found him... his mental state deteriorated greatly and it must have been a week before they found him. One of the neighbors found it, when they smelled it."
"My uncle left the nursing home, but only after two weeks he could see his family doctor. It took two weeks to release his paperwork just so he could see a doctor at the health fund. For two weeks he was lying at home in pain, and he couldn't see a doctor. These are the things The little ones who break the people."
How do you explain what happened?
"It's a failure of many factors. Ours, the family too. Maybe we could have done more, even though we tried very hard. I tried to ask my cousin how he was and how he was doing, but he didn't tell or share anything. They should have checked what was going on with him... A social worker should have come and seen what was going on. An incident happened here, and it needs to be addressed."
"My uncle got tired of the old people's home and he moved back to the house. We restored the electricity to his apartment, but the house does not look good. There is almost no furniture. His bedroom was almost undamaged, so he can sleep there, but the rest of the house is a catastrophe."
"My son needed therapy"
The father of the deceased boy agreed to address the tragic case, even though he was during the swearing-in: "The municipality is to blame for what happened to my son, they didn't handle the issue properly. My son needed treatment. I would have expected them to come to the house more and check how he is doing," he says.
"I'm now back living at home. The house was destroyed because of the fire, we painted my bedroom, but everything around is full of soot and broken. I have no choice. In the old people's home they took all my money, and I'm left with 500 NIS per month. I couldn't manage like that. That's why I returned to live at home despite his condition."
I suggest that you add a phone number to the article where you can contact the family and offer any necessary help.
I have electrical appliances that I would be happy to donate (for heating and food),
Others here offered their services in renovation, painting and cleaning.
You published the article and echoed this terrible story, although it is too late for the son but not for the father,
The point here is to blacken everyone's soul in the passive aggressive segment or shall we help?
give a number
Shocking, my heart aches for him, may his memory rest in heaven
So not surprising (unfortunately) that welfare does nothing
Where they are needed they are not
shame
It's really sad to read about the tragedy that this family went through, and about the loneliness experienced by both the father and the son, and even sadder that they found him after a long time that no one visited and cared for the poor guy who ended his life in such terrible circumstances, I hope that at least Dad will be taken care of and the house will be renovated for him to be livable
How sad is the story in this... is there even a possibility to help the father? Donations are collected for everything... here it is actually to help the father especially before Passover... everyone is cleaning and throwing things away... you can donate and help or donate money... I really expect and hope that they will not forget about A father who is left alone…
I share in his grief...losing the child is the worst of all
It breaks my heart!!! Let's do a good deed
And we will help him. You don't need welfare to help another person, any person who has talent in something who volunteered and we will help him together!!!
shame shame Criminal neglect and this is the result. People, open your eyes, have some compassion. we are all one.
I don't understand blaming welfare. Why ?
If they don't help then why waste salaries on them?
If they missed giving help, they should be punished!
And most importantly, who saves the money we pay to the municipality?????
The city looks bad!
How many hundreds of workers in the towns so that there will be no money left there?
You can always do more, but sorry for the lack of empathy and I don't judge a person for his grief, but sometimes you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. Welfare in this case did the maximum it could do - gave the father the option to live in a nursing home. It is true that NIS 500 remains in the old age pension, but the cost of a nursing home per month is NIS 10,000. The deceased son was also offered help, and perhaps he should have received treatment, but according to the law, anyone who is not psychotic and expresses suicidal or aggressive thoughts cannot be hospitalized him under duress. It was said in the article that the son refused any help and did not share his thoughts with anyone.
With all the sorrow, the state did what it could. And I assume that the family and neighbors also did as much as they could.
What did they contact the Ministry of Welfare for? And they did not turn to the dear public of the city or to any Ami to help in what they can. After all, most of them have talents and Ami has kindness in him. Why didn't they ask them to do them a favor? And so this disaster would have been avoided. And including other disasters that have happened and may happen. Because of a lack of caring partnership. Really sad all these events. When will the suicides end? People here don't do enough. Where you loved your neighbor as yourself.
Welfare services of the municipality of Haifa they should be punished. Something from there must fly its seat. Yes, because of their sensitivity, serious things happened there. The son committed suicide, they could save him and invite him to offer him jobs suitable for his skills. The house must take care of painting the house so that they can sleep. Otherwise, what is the street sleep for? It is meant for the welfare hour. Just to take care of him in normal conditions so that he can live in normal conditions.
And what about a place to stay? Also take care of the food that will arrive at his house. So why do the welfare services care for each other and if they didn't act like that, they must do the welfare services and what is their role. Probably a long time
do nothing Forget what the social workers are for, therefore the big heart.
It's a shame that there are people who are so transparent that no one sees them from their seats in places that were designed and established by the state to handle exactly the cases as if, but in the end they simply don't see anyone from a meter and our nation has to lose, a young man who ends up ending his life Friends, not only the courts need reform, all the state institutions need it and like a computer they need to be restarted. Too bad it's so
A very unfortunate incident that could have prevented this death
If only they would show some humanity
I am very sorry to share in your sorrow.. Where is the permission?
What is the negligence of the bodies that have to take care of a person like this in these situations and sorry to say but there is a family member in this story why didn't you take the guy to you to take care of what he needs nakedness and welfare services on the face of people who don't come to them they won't ask or anything the man just went away may his memory be blessed
How outrageous and sad and tragic the case is. Where are the authorities? Where is the concern, a little more sensitivity and care could have prevented this unimaginable tragedy of mine personally, very hard to digest.
It is very sad that people who do not cope and need the help of the Ministry of Social Affairs or any other entity whose role is to help those in need are not there to help, but now that the poor man is dead, everyone will come to the media to tell how much they did for him and for the father and complain that they do not have enough resources
Shocking, he is not allowed to return to the apartment there is full of soot and curios. And the state must help him. Where are all the ministers who are going to protest instead of saving? Crime in the city!!
Hello everyone, I am currently with the family.. Anyone who commented here who wants to help, please contact me on the phone: 0549456720.. You can also send a WhatsApp message
Very sad... and I implore those who need help, advertise yourself, say you need help, be honest. Don't just turn to the authorities, but also to associations and even to the media! Life is beyond shame, don't be ashamed, dare to continue living and ask for help from others. We are not rivals, but guarantors of each other.
Social facts, facts about the country.
They toil, sweat and toil in hard work only for women.
And here is another proof from the article itself.
The man in the country is neglected and trampled to the core.
Shame on you
From many years of experience and souls
A land that eats its inhabitants!
More than sad…..sincere condolences
Hi, I would love to come and help renovate.. How can I get in touch with the father who currently lives in the apartment
You can call Elihu 0528697975
Just shows what dimension we live in.
"welfare" systems that see profits and nothing else related
to a human heart node.
There is nothing new here.
The systems have an interest in things going this way.
And now sex brings financing to this victim the renovation costs?
sad