(haipo) - The doctors told Uriah Abu from Haifa that the pregnancy was endangering her life and that she should terminate it, this when she had a baby at home who was born prematurely due to preeclampsia which endangered her and after she had two miscarriages. She decided to listen to her intuition, it wasn't easy, but in her case, definitely worth it.
to be a mother
It is impossible not to be moved by hearing the story of Oriya Abu, a 28-year-old young woman from Neve Shanan, who, thanks to her determination and strong faith, can today smile with a whole heart.
Oriya, married to Naor and mother of two sweet little ones - Yanai Rafael, one and two months old and Noam Shlomo, one month old. Oriya won the title of "mother" not easily, to say the least. Despite her young age, she managed to go through difficulties and upheavals, when she experienced two pregnancies that ended in miscarriage. Today she believes she had a corrective experience when God blessed her with two children. "Two children against two abortions," she says.
It all started when in the third pregnancy, after two miscarriages, the baby developed and the pregnancy progressed, until around the 30th week Oria's preeclampsia broke out. She was admitted to the hospital and the doctors tried to stabilize her condition and prevent a danger to her life, while at the same time efforts are being made to prolong the pregnancy as much as possible. Since the doctors had difficulty stabilizing her condition, it was decided to give birth to Oriya at the 31st week of pregnancy by emergency surgery. Her eldest son Yanai Rafael was born weighing one and a half kilos and was premature for two months.
a surprise
"From this place of preeclampsia and premature birth, I started monitoring after the birth," says Oriya, "then they explained to me that I could not get pregnant for the first year and a half, to let my body recover from the poisoning and get stronger. I definitely agree with what the doctors told me and I really kept myself from getting pregnant for pregnancy, so that it wouldn't be a surprise. However, it was a surprise and after half a year I got pregnant. When I saw two lines that showed that the test was positive, the first thing that went through my mind was what am I supposed to do?
"The situation was not easy, because I have a six-month-old premature baby, I have tests and follow-up and I can't take a risk. I was very confused. It was Friday and I was urgently looking for a doctor to consult with. One of the doctors saw me on Friday at noon, I came to him when I was completely upset, and he said unequivocally that I should not continue the pregnancy and that I should terminate the pregnancy. He explained the process to me and said that he would recommend to the termination of pregnancy committee to approve the procedure."
"beginning the journey"
"I left there crying, because I've also had abortions in the past and how am I now going to have an elective abortion? I wasn't mentally ready for it and I didn't want to accept it. For me it was very difficult, so I decided to get another opinion. The second doctor told me that I don't have to Abortion. But that I will be monitored for a high-risk pregnancy and that I will receive injections and pills. I told myself that if there is such an option, I am ready to do it and I am starting the journey."
Uriah's journey was not easy at all, but for her there is no doubt that it was worth it. Every day she injected herself and took pills. This is when she is taking care of a premature baby and alongside the traumatic abortions she went through in the past and the difficult birth that accompanied her with the birth of Yanai Rafael. The fear of miscarriage was present in this pregnancy all the time and this time the fear of the outbreak of preeclampsia was also added. The concerns grew as the pregnancy progressed, and reached its peak at week 30-31, the period when poisoning broke out in the previous pregnancy - with Yanai Rafael. Time passed and the pregnancy developed, the stress and fear lessened, until she arrived, against all odds, to give birth on the planned date, in the 39th week.
"We said we'd fight for whatever comes next"
"I decided to go with it to the end with all that it implies. But I knew that with the support of my husband and my family, if God forbid something were to happen, there would be someone to help and wrap it up. Because despite all the precautions, this pregnancy probably had to be. The decision to keep the pregnancy and not have The break was mine and my husband supported me with this decision. The opinions of our relatives were divided, there were those who said that I was irresponsible, that I have a child at home and how do I do it, and there were those who supported me. My husband told me "whatever you decide, I am with you", and at the same time He asked us to go get a third opinion. In the end I didn't go to another midwife, I decided to continue the pregnancy and my husband, as mentioned, supported it. Of course, throughout the pregnancy there was the fear in the air, and there were stages when I was more afraid, but in the end, when we decided that we were going to go for it - we went all the way and said that whatever will be will be, and that if God forbid something happens we will deal with it. I decided not to listen to background noise and go with my intuition."
"I really believed it"
"Preoccupation with the upbringing of the eldest child made me worry less about the pregnancy and I believe that it had a very big weight," says Oriya, "I believed that I was going to go through a corrective experience. Not only would I not go through poisoning again, but I would also finish giving birth in the ninth month and give birth to a healthy baby. It was My mantra, I really believed in it. I did and went to all the tests, according to the book, but I always went with a positive attitude and a feeling that everything would be fine. I accepted it naturally and moved on. I told myself that if the pregnancy occurred even though I used contraceptives, that means it should occur and that everything will pass In peace. I believe that thought creates reality, and it is definitely a corrective experience - two children against two abortions."
"This birth is also a completely corrective experience. Being with your baby after surgery is something that is not taken for granted. Changing diapers, hugging, feeding. Because in my first birth I gave birth to a premature baby who was in an incubator and only after a month I was able to change his diaper and feed him. I did not experience in my first birth the What parents usually experience is different and it's fun."
Uriah in a message to women who are in a similar situation
"It is very important to listen to the doctors, but it is also very important to listen to your mother's intuition. To receive and ask for support. And most importantly, if a woman comes to a decision, then be at peace with it and go with it to the end. Once you decide something, go to the end and think positively, as they say "everything "It goes wrong for the best" and everything that happens - everything is for the best, and someone like me knows that everything ended well. Even the doctors did not believe that I would end the pregnancy healthy with a healthy baby of a normal weight."
I have to praise the amazing team in the maternity ward and Rambam's delivery room, who wrapped me up and gave me all the support I needed. It was a completely different experience, when I was released healthy and holding a healthy baby, after four days in the hospital.
I also want to thank my amazing husband, without his support and help this would not have happened, before the birth, during the pregnancy and after the birth.